Have you ever spent time around a pessimist or a negative-thinking person? Someone who is comfortable looking at life in a negative way, who sees their glass as half empty instead of half full? I recently was around someone like this and something hit me in a powerful way as I listened to this person complaining about the weather:
"Some people are comfortable making excuses or talking about how things in their life that are not what they want them to be. Others hate making excuses and never look at their life and complain things aren't the way they want them to be. One is defeated, the other fully believes they can achieve, and are fully engaged in achieving positive results"
The operative word that makes this statement so powerful to me - comfortable. This person is literally comfortable looking at life and saying "my glass is half empty." Comfortable is defined as being in a state of mental and physical comfort; enjoying contentment and security; at ease . This individual is comfortable being so negative. It would be uncomfortable for them to think optimistically. It would be uncomfortable for them to think of things in a positive way. Complaining and pointing out why things won't work is second nature. Their default thought is always why something cannot work while successful people naturally think why not?
Another operative word is defeated. This person has lost before the first pitch is even thrown. It's a demeanor that says "life is to big for me and I am destined to not achieve." Defeated is defined as having suffered defeat, been beaten; showing signs of discouragement. Imagine facing life this way? Some do. Is that you? Even just a little?!
Fully believing is a key word describing a person who achieves. This person believes in something in a way that gives him or her the emotional sensation that it's already been achieved - they not only picture it working, they feel it working. It's an unshakable belief. Coronal Sanders was 65 when he started KFC and was rejected by potential lenders 1,009 times. Walt Disney was turned down over 300 times before securing financing for Disney World. Vincent Van Gogh only sold one painting in his lifetime, and to a friend!. But despite that he kept painting and finished over 800 pieces. Now everyone wants to buy them and his most expensive painting is valued at $142.7 million.
Lastly, fully engaged, is an important concept to observe. Fully means absolutely, altogether, completely, entirely, every inch, from first to last, heart and soul, in all respects, intimately, lock, stock and barrel, one hundred per cent, perfectly, positively, thoroughly, totally, to the hilt, utterly, wholly. Surely there's one adjective you can hold on too in there! And to engage is to embark on, or commit to a cause. Successful people fully commit, they don't hedge their bets. They're all in and in on all of it. They don't keep their options open. They fully believe what they are doing will be achieved and they give 100% till it's realized.
Bringing it together
Pay very close attention to your natural disposition when it comes to circumstances in your life. Pay attention to your internal dialogue when faced with a task. Pay attention to your first thought when it comes to a challenge you face. If in any of those situation your gut reaction is to think negatively, then remember this post and change your thinking. If you catch yourself making an excuse for something, remember this post. Remember: failures make excuses while champions are busy making a way.