Constructive Feedback Part II

Continuing with this important topic of constructive feedback (how to give it and take it), I want to list some verses from God's Word (Proverbs) to help bring home the point.  

"Give instruction to a wise man, and he will be still wiser; teach a righteous man, and he will love you."  Proverbs 9:9.  Point: if you are a wise person, you will take instruction (constructive feedback) well to become more wise.
"On the lips of him who has understanding, wisdom is found."  Proverbs 10:13.  Point: if you're lucky to have someone you respect who has understanding speak into your life, or give you constructive feedback, take it - because you will find wisdom too.
"Whoever heeds instruction is on the path to life." Proverbs 10:17. Point: heed instruction; take advise; encourage constructive feedback.
"...but he who hates reproof is stupid."  Proverbs 12:1b. Point: reproof = rebuke/correcting; if you're apposed to receiving constructive feedback, well, you're stupid!
"Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him."  Proverbs 13:24.  Point: to love someone well, or to really care about someone, is to discipline them when they need it, or in the case of constructive feedback, provide it.
"A scoffer (a person who is not pleasant or agreeable) does not like to be reproved (to be criticized); he will NOT go to the wise"  Proverbs 15:12.  Point: foolish people avoid constructive feedback.
"The ear that listens to reproof (constructive feedback) will dwell among the wise."  Proverbs 15:31.  Point: if you listen to constructive feedback, you will become wise.
"Pride goes before destruction."  Proverbs 16:18.  Point: people often refuse constructive feedback because they are too prideful.  Pride leads to a fall.
"A rebuke goes deeper into a man of understanding than a hundred blows into a fool."  Proverbs 17:10.  Point: wise people do good things with constructive feedback; fools are unfazed by it.  Which person is going to improve?
"The discerning (quick to understand) sets his face towards wisdom." Proverbs 17:24.  Point: those who are smart continually seek constructive feedback; its a habit!
"A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in a setting of silver."  Proverbs 25:11.  Point: constructive feedback spoken correctly (right time, right place, right way) is a wonderful thing.
"Do you see a man who is wise in his own eyes?  There is more hope for a fool than for him."  Proverbs 26:12.  Point: again, pride comes between constructive feedback and wisdom.
"Faithful are the wounds of a friend."  Proverbs 27:6.  Point: constructive feedback can hurt, but if they come from a friend with your best interest at heart, they will bless and can be trusted.
"Iron sharpens iron, and on man sharpens another." Proverbs 27:17.  Point: we sharpen each other with constructive feedback.
"He who is often reproved, yet stiffens his neck, will suddenly be broken beyond healing."  Proverbs 29:1.  Point: again, pride will lead to destruction if you are unwilling to listen to constructive feedback.
"Discipline you son, and he will give you rest; he will give delight to your heart."  Proverbs 29:17. Point: again, to love well is to discipline, or provide constructive feedback; it will bless others and give them wisdom that will ultimately bless you.  

In closing, you can see the benefits of constructive feedback: wisdom, blessing.  On the other hand, you're stupid/foolish if you repeatedly avoid constructive feedback.  And, worst than being stupid, you're setting yourself up for a great fall.  

Bringing it home - we all need to take very seriously constructive feedback: how to give it and how to receive it.  We need to create a culture at Crawford Landscaping where constructive feedback is given appropriately (right time, right place, right way) and received with humility, not pride.  This takes an incredible amount of practice to become good at it, but the rewards are worth it.